I'm an alcoholic. I've been drunk or hungover basically for the past year, if not two. It's starting to effect my job, my marriage, my hobbies, everything. I came off a week long bender last Friday. The party didn't stop, you know? I was buzzed at work and drunk at an online staff meeting. No one knew, or at least they didn't call me out on it.
Currently I'm tapering off. I had 20 units of alcohol on Saturday. 14 on Sunday. 10 yesterday. Only one today. The withdrawal symptoms are ridiculous. Initially I would get them every hour, then hour and a half, then three hours, now we're at four to six. I think it's working but I'm scared of back sliding. I quit cold turkey once and I don't want to do that again.
I thought about going for in person detox, but wanted to try myself first. I've contacted and set up an appointment for a psychiatrist. I have a diagnosis of asperger's (I don't know if that's a thing any longer), but I think I'm also depressed and anxious, and that's led to me self medicating with alcohol. Plus I just enjoy it y'know? I've ordered naltrexone from an online pharmacy, but I should probably do that in conjunction with a doctor. I'm looking into support groups but specifically want one with a secular bent.
I feel ashamed and anxious, depressed about myself and who I am, but I'm trying to recognize that I also have positive qualities. I have a good team of friends and family behind me. I've started talking to them about my alcohol abuse, and just how bad it's gotten. My mother is heartbroken for me, my father is furious, my wife mostly has tough love for me. My friends are trying to boost me up saying that I recognized a problem and I'm going to fix it. My work has basically said "You've got one more quarter to improve your performance," mostly because when I'm good at work I'm awesome at it.
I feel strong also though, and like I have the ability to make change. I hate that one of my big accomplishments in life is going to be 'quitting an addiction' but I think that's because I harbor some dumb prejudices about who gets addicted and why. Consciously I know that it can happen to anyone. I kinda just wanted to put this out into the void.

I've never posted on reddit and not sure if people have done it better but it felt like an accomplishment so 🤷 clip below. https://clips.twitch.tv/SuccessfulEmpathicLyrebirdTwitchRaid-Mnd4wH3wrvHqbRXy

I am in a bit of a panic, so apologies if this isn’t written in the best way.
Some context:
I have been seeing this guy since January. When we first started dating, I was in still in the closet. Then in April, I came out to my parents and friends. My mum did not react as well as I hoped to the news that I am seeing a guy. She tried to hold back her emotions but after me coming out, I saw her crying etc… As someone who has been close with my mother, this really had an effect on me.
Back to the relationship. Despite the setback in my home life, things had been going well with this guy, but recently I noticed a slight change in his behaviour. Then, this time last week he arranged to have a drink at a local pub (I had also seen him a day prior).
This is when he suggested that we take a break in our foufive month relationship.
The reasoning he give for this is that he feels hard done by and “hidden” by me, as he has not been to my house and met my family yet, but I instead have met his parents and siblings and get on with them well, and have spent many hours at his family house and uni house. Don’t get me wrong, I have wanted to invite him over to my house for a long while, but with my mum not reacting all too well with me coming out as gay, and my dad, not exactly encouraging it, I felt I needed to give my parents time before inviting him to mine as I did not want them to feel more uncomfortable or for it to be awkward.
I have mentally put myself in his position and I can totally appreciate that this has been an issue for him, and I do feel guilty that I have not shared family life with him yet, and that this has agitated him.
He said, he needs the break as the situation has affected his mental health and he needs some headspace and time to be a better person. I am more than willing to give him this time, but I also have concerns that he is doing this to ‘soften the blow’ of a proper break up, or he is seeing/talking to other guys behind my back and if that does not work out, he has me as a reserve. I did ask him when having our discussion last week if he has met another person, and he insists he has not.
When we parted ways after the discussion, he was genuinely emotional with tears running down his face. Since then, we have kept in contact and message each other regularly, almost as if nothing has happened. He has even added me to ‘find my iPhone’ as if show he isn’t trying to hide anything. Even his mum messaged me, checking if I was ok and saying how her son loves me etc…
I must add, when I saw him a day prior to our discussion, I made a point of saying that he can come round to mine in the coming week, as I could tell it was bothering him (albeit not to such a great extent!). Surely fixing the issue asap would be better than prolonging it by taking a break?
So, if you have survived long enough to reach this point in my post, I would like to know what you all think about the situation. Does he genuinely need a break for his mental health and to heal after feeling “hidden” or is he leading me on and I’m being taken for a mug?
Thank you in advance❤️

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I know I’m beating a dead horse, here, but can I just vent for a second that it takes a minute, dammit! Don’t tell me, every time there’s an issue, to “build a relationship” with the student - I’m fecking trying to.
Also I’m a little salty this morning because one of the topics in the book study my whole district has to do this summer brought up kids in foster care and I’m all in my memories and feelings about a kid who I worked so freaking hard to validate, love, and get him engaged in class and the first time we started to FINALLY see some growth, he got yanked out of his placement in the middle of the night and sent somewhere else. That poor kid had to start all over with a whole other family, teacher, new set of kids, etc. in the middle of the year, and as much of a chip he had on his shoulder in August, I imagine he was pretty resentful and hard to reach again in February. Maybe not - maybe the work we did stayed with him and he was fine (but somehow I don’t think he was.)
Anyways… consider this a place to comment and vent about struggles in “Building relationships?”

I’ve been seeing so many people dislike Walter but accept Mike and it made me come up with a theory as to why.
Firstly, the general reasons people do not like Walter are because of his lack of integrity, lying, manipulating, poisoning Brock, ego and pride. Second people accept Mike because he is professional, calm, proficient and has a ”code”.
Objectively both are murders who make or distribute drugs. Both are not blood thirsty killers like Tuco, but they both make calculated choices and only kill when they need to protect or advance their cause.
While both are bad people why does Mike get an excuse? My theory involves the attacks on 9/11. 9/11 changed the modern world, it was a huge catastrophe. Objectively speaking though 2000 people died. During world war 2 and in Vietnam the USA bombed hundreds of thousands civilians but it was “excused” because of the war. Mike represents the discipline of a soldier. He can kill others because he has a code. Just as a soldier kills another it is excused because that’s how war works. We don’t consider US bombers terrorists and we don’t condemn Mike.
Walt on the other had is like the 9/11 terrorists. We don’t consider them soldiers because they brake the code of war. Walt was a disruptor. He didn’t rise through the ranks like Gus or Mike, he got to the top in like 2 years when Mike had to carefully plan the lab and Gus had to kiss up to the cartel for years to get their positions. Viewers also don’t accept Walt’s actions because he supposed to be meek and not a drug dealer. Just as terrorists are not soldiers Walt is not a true drug dealer.
In the end if you really pay attention both Walt and Mike get a trill by their criminal actions and must use self defense because of the drug trade. They both lie to others about only doing it for family. Both could have done other legal activities to get money so they are both equally wicked. Just as bombing civilians is wrong in war and in terror
I don’t how if they makes sense, please let me know why you either accept or condemn Walt or Mike.

Hello. My family and I might be moving out that way in the spring 2024. How does everyone on this subreddit like living out there?? Is it a good location to raise a family? Are the people generally nice to outsiders adults and kids alike? I currently live in northern VA and am growing tired of the area mostly because of the cost of living, traffic and general self centeredness of a lot of the people. I used to live in mustang when I was much younger but have some pretty good memories of the place. Any help is appreciated.

What's the most memorable prank you've seen on TV or in a movie?

• EndeavourOS
• GE 8-8 & 8-7

Problem: Some games launch without audio and they don't create a entry in pavucontrol.
In the case of Diablo IV

• BattleNet launcher plays audio and registers in pavucontrol when doing so.
• Diablo IV does not pass audio when launched.

MGS V also behaves the same on lutris, but when launching on steam audio works. So I assume its something to do with the winecfg?
winecfg

• Selected Driver - winepulse.drv
• Outputs - Default
• Test audio works.

Lutris Logs for D4:

lutris-wrapper: Blizzard Battle.netStarted initial process 49545 from gamescope -w 3440 -h 1440 -W 3440 -H 1440 -f -- gamemoderun /home/altereddata/.local/share/lutris/runners/wine/lutris-GE-Proton8-8-x86_64/bin/wine /home/altereddata/Games/battlenet/drive_c/Program Files (x86)/Battle.net/Battle.net Launcher.exeStart monitoring process.No CAP_SYS_NICE, falling back to regular-priority compute and threads.Performance will be affected.wlserver: [backend/headless/backend.c:68] Creating headless backendvulkan: selecting physical device 'NVIDIA GeForce GTX 1070': queue family 2vulkan: physical device supports DRM format modifiersvulkan: vkGetPhysicalDeviceFormatProperties2 returned zero modifiers for DRM format 0x3231564E (VkResult: 0)vulkan: vkGetPhysicalDeviceFormatProperties2 returned zero modifiers for DRM format 0x48344241 (VkResult: 0)vulkan: vkGetPhysicalDeviceFormatProperties2 returned zero modifiers for DRM format 0x48344258 (VkResult: 0)vulkan: vkGetPhysicalDeviceFormatProperties2 returned zero modifiers for DRM format 0x38344241 (VkResult: 0)vulkan: vkGetPhysicalDeviceFormatProperties2 returned zero modifiers for DRM format 0x38344258 (VkResult: 0)vulkan: supported DRM formats for sampling usage:vulkan: AR24 (0x34325241)vulkan: XR24 (0x34325258)vulkan: AB24 (0x34324241)vulkan: XB24 (0x34324258)vulkan: AB30 (0x30334241)vulkan: XB30 (0x30334258)vulkan: AR30 (0x30335241)vulkan: XR30 (0x30335258)wlserver: Running compositor on wayland display 'gamescope-0'wlserver: [backend/headless/backend.c:16] Starting headless backendwlserver: [xwayland/sockets.c:63] Failed to bind socket @/tmp/.X11-unix/X0: Address already in usewlserver: [util/env.c:9] Loading WLR_NO_HARDWARE_CURSORS option: 1wlserver: [types/output/output.c:382] WLR_NO_HARDWARE_CURSORS set, forcing software cursorswlserver: [xwayland/server.c:108] Starting Xwayland on :2wlserver: [types/wlr_compositor.c:681] New wlr_surface 0x55e6aa370c90 (res 0x55e6aa72d820)wlserver: [xwayland/server.c:273] Xserver is readypipewire: stream state changed: connectingpipewire: stream state changed: pausedpipewire: stream available on node ID: 131gamemodeauto: fsync: up and running.wine: Using setpriority to control niceness in the [-11,11] rangewlserver: [types/wlr_compositor.c:681] New wlr_surface 0x55e6aa183b20 (res 0x55e6aa72ebe0)xwm: got the same buffer commited twice, ignoring.The XKEYBOARD keymap compiler (xkbcomp) reports:> Warning: Unsupported maximum keycode 708, clipping.> X11 cannot support keycodes above 255.Errors from xkbcomp are not fatal to the X serverxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _KDE_NET_WM_STATE_SKIP_SWITCHERxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_ABOVExwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_VERTxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_HORZxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _KDE_NET_WM_STATE_SKIP_SWITCHERxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_ABOVExwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_VERTxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_HORZxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _KDE_NET_WM_STATE_SKIP_SWITCHERxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_ABOVExwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_VERTxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_HORZxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _KDE_NET_WM_STATE_SKIP_SWITCHERxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_ABOVExwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_VERTxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_HORZxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_DEMANDS_ATTENTIONwlserver: [types/wlr_compositor.c:681] New wlr_surface 0x55e6aa7ad820 (res 0x55e6aa747930)xwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _KDE_NET_WM_STATE_SKIP_SWITCHERxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_ABOVExwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_VERTxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_HORZxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _KDE_NET_WM_STATE_SKIP_SWITCHERxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_ABOVExwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_VERTxwm: Unhandled NET_WM_STATE property change: _NET_WM_STATE_MAXIMIZED_HORZxwm: got the same buffer commited twice, ignoring.wlserver: [types/wlr_compositor.c:681] New wlr_surface 0x55e6aa7add20 (res 0x55e6aa749b70)wlserver: [types/wlr_compositor.c:681] New wlr_surface 0x55e6aa7ae2f0 (res 0x55e6aa74baf0)xwm: got the same buffer commited twice, ignoring.wlserver: [types/wlr_compositor.c:681] New wlr_surface 0x55e6aa7ae720 (res 0x55e6aa74eb50)xwm: got the same buffer commited twice, ignoring.wlserver: [types/wlr_compositor.c:681] New wlr_surface 0x55e6aa7aea80 (res 0x55e6aa74baf0)xwm: got the same buffer commited twice, ignoring.xwm: error 3: BadWindow (invalid Window parameter) request 20 minor 0 serial 14751xwm: error 3: BadWindow (invalid Window parameter) request 20 minor 0 serial 14752xwm: error 3: BadWindow (invalid Window parameter) request 20 minor 0 serial 14754xwm: error 3: BadWindow (invalid Window parameter) request 15 minor 0 serial 14755xwm: error 3: BadWindow (invalid Window parameter) request 20 minor 0 serial 14756wine client error:634: write: Bad file descriptor3814.598:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_instance_apply_application_workarounds: Program name: "Diablo IV.exe"3814.598:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_instance_deduce_config_flags_from_environment: shader_cache is used, global_pipeline_cache is enforced.3814.598:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_config_flags_init_once: VKD3D_CONFIG=''.3814.599:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_get_vk_version: vkd3d-proton - applicationVersion: 2.9.0.3814.599:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_instance_init: vkd3d-proton - build: 6365efeba253807.3814.773:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_memory_info_upload_hvv_memory_properties: Topology: Device heaps are split. Assuming small BAR situation. Using HOST_COHERENT only.3814.775:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_bindless_state_get_bindless_flags: Device does not support VK_EXT_mutable_descriptor_type (or VALVE).3814.775:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_bindless_state_add_binding: Device supports VK_EXT_descriptor_buffer!3814.775:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_bindless_state_add_binding: Device supports VK_EXT_descriptor_buffer!3814.775:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_bindless_state_add_binding: Device supports VK_EXT_descriptor_buffer!3814.775:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_bindless_state_add_binding: Device supports VK_EXT_descriptor_buffer!3814.775:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_bindless_state_add_binding: Device supports VK_EXT_descriptor_buffer!3814.775:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_bindless_state_add_binding: Device supports VK_EXT_descriptor_buffer!3814.775:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_bindless_state_add_binding: Device supports VK_EXT_descriptor_buffer!3814.778:077c:0780:fixme:vkd3d-proton:d3d12_device_caps_init_feature_options1: TotalLaneCount = 1920, may be inaccurate.3814.778:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_init_disk_cache: Remapping VKD3D_SHADER_CACHE to: vkd3d-proton.cache.3814.778:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_init_disk_cache: Attempting to load disk cache from: vkd3d-proton.cache.3814.779:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Performing async setup of stream archive ...3814.780:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_cache_merge: No write cache exists. No need to merge any disk caches.3814.780:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_cache_initial_setup: Merging pipeline libraries took 0.270 ms.3814.780:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_cache_initial_setup: Mapping read-only cache took 0.337 ms.3814.786:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_cache_initial_setup: Parsing stream archive took 6.562 ms.3814.786:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Done performing async setup of stream archive.wlserver: [types/wlr_compositor.c:681] New wlr_surface 0x55e6a9d186a0 (res 0x55e6aa744a80)xwm: Unhandled client message: _NET_WM_FULLSCREEN_MONITORSxwm: got the same buffer commited twice, ignoring.3815.028:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:dxgi_vk_swap_chain_init: Creating swapchain (3440 x 1440), BufferCount = 3.3815.029:077c:0780:info:vkd3d-proton:dxgi_vk_swap_chain_init_sync_objects: Enabling frame latency handles.wlserver: [types/wlr_compositor.c:681] New wlr_surface 0x55e6a9d18a00 (res 0x55e6aa7464f0)3819.396:077c:0820:info:vkd3d-proton:dxgi_vk_swap_chain_recreate_swapchain_in_present_task: Got 4 swapchain images.3819.456:077c:0820:info:vkd3d-proton:dxgi_vk_swap_chain_recreate_swapchain_in_present_task: Got 4 swapchain images.3872.901:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Pipeline cache marked dirty. Flush is scheduled.3874.002:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Flushing disk cache (wakeup counter since last flush = 73). It seems like application has stopped creating new PSOs for the time being.3875.207:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Pipeline cache marked dirty. Flush is scheduled.3877.959:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Flushing disk cache (wakeup counter since last flush = 102). It seems like application has stopped creating new PSOs for the time being.3880.212:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Pipeline cache marked dirty. Flush is scheduled.3881.211:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Flushing disk cache (wakeup counter since last flush = 4). It seems like application has stopped creating new PSOs for the time being.3883.972:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Pipeline cache marked dirty. Flush is scheduled.3884.971:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Flushing disk cache (wakeup counter since last flush = 4). It seems like application has stopped creating new PSOs for the time being.3901.401:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Pipeline cache marked dirty. Flush is scheduled.3904.323:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Flushing disk cache (wakeup counter since last flush = 150). It seems like application has stopped creating new PSOs for the time being.3904.848:077c:0818:info:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_pipeline_library_disk_thread_main: Pipeline cache marked dirty. Flush is scheduled.(EE) failed to read Wayland events: Broken pipeX connection to :2 broken (explicit kill or server shutdown).X connection to :2 broken (explicit kill or server shutdown).X connection to :2 broken (explicit kill or server shutdown).X connection to :2 broken (explicit kill or server shutdown).X connection to :2 broken (explicit kill or server shutdown).X connection to :2 broken (explicit kill or server shutdown).Initial process has exited (return code: 0)XIO: fatal IO error 110 (Connection timed out) on X server ":2" after 503 requests (502 known processed) with 0 events remaining.3914.556:077c:07c8:err:vkd3d-proton:vkd3d_allocate_device_memory: Failed to allocate device memory (size 13312, type_flags 0x1, type_mask 0x82).wine client error:2c0: write: Bad file descriptordouble free or corruption (!prev)Monitored process exited.Exit with return code 0 

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I've double checked dependencies from here: https://www.gloriouseggroll.tv/how-to-get-out-of-wine-dependency-hell/ and other 'help threads' making sure 32bit variants are installed also.
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Any help is appreciated.

Hi, all! Ran into an issue while playing, and was wondering if anyone had any ideas?
My Sims are currently a family of grandma, mom, dad, three children, two cats. I created a resort lot in Hidden Springs, using the already-existing Redwood Heights Lodge. I put a resort tower, reception desk, a few resort amenities. There are also four suite rooms on the second floor, each with their own door and bathroom. Two suites have one double bed, two suites have two double beds plus a crib for families.
When I go to click on it for a stay, my Sims can only stay in the resort tower. Would anyone know why the game isn't recognizing the four suites? Thanks in advance!

Some background, I (36F) and my husband (40M) have been together for 7 years. I was married before and brought my two kids from my first marriage into the relationship, my husband had never been married and no kids. We got pregnant pretty quickly and it was a whirlwind. When we were together in the beginning we spent a lot of time with his family. I'm talking almost every weekend, holiday, pizza nights, birthdays ect. It was amazing, they accepted me and my kids right in and I felt just like family.
When we first got married his brother moved in with us for a little while. When he moved out he had left some stuff in our house, which was fine. One weekend when my husband was out of town he decided he needed his stuff right then and there. My husband and him have purchased some of the things he wanted to pick up so I asked if he could wait to come get his things until my husband got home the next day so they could go through it together. This set him off, he flipped out to the point where my husband told me to change the locks and call the cops if he showed up. I was about 7 months pregnant and had my two kids home with me while my husband was out of town. Due to previous issues with abuse from men this really terrified me. He threatened to sue us for withholding property ect. It was bad. His parents got involved and we all sat down and resolved that issue.
Fast forward to about 6 months later, my husband was out of town again. His family was going hiking so I joined with my now 3 kids. It was a pretty long hike, I drove so when I brought my FIL home I parked in his driveway, not intending to stay long but to let everyone use the bathroom and then head home. While inside my BIL, who we had the issue with earlier, came in and started saying that I have no idea how to drive and how I "parked in his spot". He lived with his parents at the time. He angrily started gathering his things to leave again, his anger making me uncomfortable I decided it was time to go. When I got out to the driveway I saw that BIL decided to park as close as he could to my driver's side door blocking me from getting the carseat and myself in on that side. I did not want to confront him, because again men terrify me. I just got the kids in on the other side and climbed in through the passenger side door, while he stood there and watched this all happen without even offering to move his car. I called my husband, who was out of town, and vented about the situation. He was upset and called his brother and his brother told him it was my fault and I should learn how to drive.
This blew up into getting his parents involved again. We tried to work it out and my husband demanded an apology for how I had been treated, but his parents and brother both thought this was a dumb "high school issue" and that he did nothing worth apologizing for. This went to the point where we went no contact with his entire side of the family. It has been about 4 years since this incident with very little contact from his side of the family. Here is where I might be the asshole, I have been trying to convince my husband to reach out to his parents. His dad has had health issues in the past and I don't want him to regret not talking to them because of me. I feel like maybe I should push the issue with him more and make him reach out. I dont know if I should be putting that on me, but I feel responsible for this whole situation and I have never had anyone stick up for me like this. So am I the asshole?

While 99% of people complain about their body composition and slowly dying in their misery… The other 1% thinks in a specific way making them ahead of everyone. Something you can’t learn with our actual society… That Kinda sucks because everybody can take off that advantage. An ancient quote was written by Marcus Aurelius 2000 years ago. Overlooked by most men but a game changer to live a happy life and maximize results. That’s why those you consider successful tend to NOT talk about it much on social media, because they know it can bring competition and make their life harder. They don’t blame their actual situation, even if they are living in hell with social pressure. Neither act like everyone else, even when it might look appropriate. Rather than limiting their beliefs to the social norm… they ask themselves “How to turn weaknesses into deadly weapons? “There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can't control” I wanna take the example of “Short” and “Ugly”, not because I myself have been bullied for that in school, But it’s one of the most common insecurities people face. Listen, You don’t like being that way? Guess what… There is nothing you can do about it! While most people will just pity themselves and cry, I want you to stretch your beliefs and NOT think like everyone else. Thinking about the pros and HOW you can use them to your advantage: Being ugly isn’t a bad thing, it increases the chances of finding a girl that ACTUALLY likes you (same for the friends) Being short makes you look buff in the picture, which gives UNLIMITED confidence. It gives you an EYE detector of who was supporting you since the beginning People under-estimates you, even if you are turning your life into a COMPLETE success. This– is just an example… But my goal is to teach you how to be flexible in any situation. hang around more people with this mindset… Within days your results will get bigger. Despite living in an extremely poor family and at a time black people were treated like garbage. Oprah Winfrey did her best to become the first black woman to own her own production company Despite having an abusive dad and developing post-traumatic disorders, David Goggins lost 106 lbs in 3 months and now is one of the biggest sports models in the world. All you need is to use the “it is what it is” mindset and stretch your beliefs on how you can make the best use of what you can do.

My family had two incidents in the last few days, starting with our cat going nuts and attacking my arm (full on) multiple times, resulting in an unsafe situation that was very upsetting. Called 311 and animal control were able to swing by and help within the hour: Two officers came by, calmed the situation, and were able to remove the cat.
Recovering from my wounds (one arm all bandaged up due to punctures) last night our mains sewer line started backing up into the basement. Called 311 again and the line inspector was at our house within an hour; he determined it was a city side issue, and called in a team that showed up two or so hours later. Resolved the issue.
I know we complain when the city lets us down, so I thought it important to speak up when it delivers. My family and I needed help and the city responded quickly, and professionally and resolved our issues. I know that this is not always possible due to extenuating circumstances, but they are trying and sometimes it all lines up. It certainly did for us.
Have a beautiful day Baltimore!

It's been nearly a year since I was dumped, she had said we could keep in contact and although it was one sided I was willing to be amicable but distant. Then she and all her family blocked me out of nowhere, I didn't even do anything? Like I never spoke to her between the breakup and the blocking so I don't understand. I never got any closure so now I'm stuck in this cycle of what if and why, whilst also going through cycles of being over it then going straight back to wanting to reach out.
I've tried dating since then but it doesn't feel right, I keep thinking to myself they aren't my ex and they won't hurt me but at the same time that also brings a little sadness because when things were good between us it was the best feeling ever.
I'll admit, my mental health got in the way and I have let my emotions run away from themselves during our relationship but none of it was ever abusive or aggressive, just amounting to arguments over little things because I would get overwhelmed and she wouldn't see my point of view so ignored my feelings. I was doing better by the end of it but I guess she was just that ignorant about mental illness that it doesn't just happen in the space of a few weeks.
I've typed out an email because that's the only place she hasn't blocked me on as far as I'm aware. I've stayed away for this long but I need this closure and I'm trying so hard to not send her it. It isn't about getting her back because she has a new partner nor is it to get sympathy, I just want her to know that I'm still here and that I'm sorry for the damage I have caused, but not asking for forgiveness. Honestly I wanted to write a painful email in an effort to just cause her pain but no, that's what the old me would do. I'm passed hurting those who have hurt me, instead I have pointed out my flaws instead of hers.
I just want to get over it and go back to living.

I recently made it known that I feel like my husband doesn't seem to acknowledge the fact he has a family. I shared how much it bothered me that he was giving his all to everyone but family. When I asked for feedback, he gave none & said we'd talk about it later. He has time to talk about it now but chose not to. At this point I feel like just becoming completely unattached. He sure seems to be already doing that. I'm always the one who has to fight for our relationship because I would rather work on things instead of throwing it away. I don't know anymore how to even deal with this anymore as this is an ongoing situation. Feels like he's trying to push me out of his life but wants me to initiate the split. Thanks in advance for any advice.

Hi, So I'm going to present my situation as neutrally as possible so my opinion doesn't skew the answers. My daughter will be 17 by April of 2024 and her school is planning a trip to France for a small group a of students. Part of the trip is spending the first 3 days and nights with a host family, who has a kid in the French school that they will attend for a couple of days. Criminal background checks are NOT being done on the host familes. I was told it would cost $150 to do each check. Would you let your kid go?

Are you tired of rushing to the salon every time you need a haircut, manicure, or massage? Do you wish you could experience professional beauty treatments without leaving the comfort of your home? Look no further! In this article, we will explore the concept of home salon and how they can revolutionize your beauty routine. From finding the right home salon near you to tips for a successful experience, we have you covered. So sit back, relax, and let the pampering come to you!
Benefits of Home Salon

1. Convenience and Comfort Home salons offer the ultimate convenience by eliminating the need to travel to a physical salon. Instead, professional beauticians come to your doorstep, saving you time and effort. Imagine getting a relaxing massage or a rejuvenating facial in the cozy ambiance of your own home. With a home salon, you can bid farewell to traffic jams and waiting rooms.
2. Personalized Experience When you visit a home salon, you receive undivided attention from the beautician. Unlike busy salons, where multiple clients are being served simultaneously, a home salon allows the beautician to focus solely on you. This personalized experience ensures that your specific needs and preferences are met, resulting in a truly tailor-made service.
3. Time-saving Time is a precious commodity, and home salons help you save plenty of it. By eliminating the need to commute and wait in queues, you can allocate that time for other important activities. Whether it's spending quality time with your loved ones or pursuing a hobby, home salons give you the luxury of time.
4. Cost-effective Contrary to popular belief, home salons can be cost-effective compared to traditional salons. Since home salons have lower overhead costs, they often offer competitive prices without compromising on quality. Additionally, you save money on transportation expenses, parking fees, and the temptation of impulse purchases at salons.

Finding a Home Salon Near You
Now that you're excited about the idea of a home salon, you might be wondering how to find one near you. Here are some effective methods to locate the perfect home salon in your area:

1. Online Directories and Platforms Online directories and platforms specializing in home services are a great resource for finding home salons. These platforms provide comprehensive listings of home salons along with customer reviews and ratings. You can filter the search results based on your location, services required, and budget.
2. Social Media Social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram are not just for sharing pictures and connecting with friends; they are also valuable tools for finding home salons. Many home salon professionals create business pages where they showcase their work, share client testimonials, and provide contact information. You can explore these pages, read reviews, and even message the professionals directly to inquire about their services.
3. Word-of-Mouth Recommendations One of the most reliable ways to find a reputable home salon is through word-of-mouth recommendations. Ask your friends, family, and colleagues if they have had any positive experiences with home salons in your area. Personal recommendations can provide valuable insights and help you make an informed decision.

Factors to Consider When Choosing a Home Salon
Choosing the right home salon is crucial to ensuring a satisfying experience. Here are some factors to consider before making your decision:

1. Qualifications and Expertise Verify the qualifications and expertise of the beauticians working at the home salon. Check if they have the necessary certifications and licenses to offer the services they provide. Experience and specialized training in specific treatments are also important factors to consider.
2. Hygiene and Sanitation Since the salon will be set up in your home, it is essential to prioritize hygiene and sanitation. Inquire about the salon's practices for sterilizing equipment, disposing of waste, and maintaining cleanliness. A reputable home salon will follow strict hygiene protocols to ensure your safety.
3. Range of Services Offered Assess the range of services offered by the home salon and ensure they align with your beauty needs. From haircuts and styling to facials, massages, and nail treatments, the salon should provide a comprehensive menu of services. This ensures that you can fulfill all your beauty requirements conveniently.
4. Pricing and Packages Compare the pricing and packages offered by different home salons. While cost should not be the sole determining factor, it is important to find a salon that offers reasonable prices for the services provided. Look for any special offers, discounts, or loyalty programs that can help you save further.
5. Customer Reviews and Testimonials Read customer reviews and testimonials about the home salon you are considering. Online platforms, social media pages, and the salon's website often feature reviews from previous clients. Pay attention to both positive and negative feedback to get a balanced perspective and make an informed decision.

Tips for a Successful Home Salon Experience
To make the most of your home salon experience, follow these tips:

1. Communication and Consultation Clearly communicate your expectations and preferences to the beautician before the session begins. Discuss any specific concerns, allergies, or sensitivities you may have. This ensures that the beautician can customize the treatment according to your needs.
2. Preparing the Space Before the beautician arrives, ensure that the space where the salon will be set up is clean, clutter-free, and well-lit. Provide a comfortable seating arrangement and a clean surface for the beautician to work on. This preparation sets the stage for a relaxing experience.
3. Setting Expectations Have a clear understanding of the services included in the package and the expected duration of the session. Clarify any doubts or queries you may have beforehand. By aligning expectations, you can avoid misunderstandings and ensure a smooth and enjoyable experience.
4. Feedback and Reviews After the session, provide feedback to the beautician about your experience. If you were satisfied with the service, leave a positive review on relevant platforms. Similarly, if you have any constructive feedback, share it directly with the beautician. Your feedback can help improve their services and benefit future clients.

Conclusion

Embracing the convenience of a home salon can transform your beauty routine into a pampering experience. With the benefits of personalized services, time-saving convenience, and cost-effectiveness, home salons offer a refreshing alternative to traditional salons. By utilizing online directories, social media platforms, and word-of-mouth recommendations, you can easily find a home salon near you. When choosing a home salon, consider factors such as qualifications, hygiene, range of services, pricing, and customer reviews. Follow the tips provided to ensure a successful home salon experience that leaves you feeling rejuvenated and pampered.

FAQs

1. Are home salon services as professional as those offered at traditional salons?

Yes, home salon services can be just as professional or even more so than those offered at traditional salons. Many home salon professionals have extensive experience and qualifications in their respective fields. Additionally, the personalized attention and comfort of being in your own space contribute to a high-quality experience.

1. How far in advance should I book a home salon appointment?

It's advisable to book a home salon appointment at least a few days in advance to secure your preferred time slot. Popular home salons may have a busy schedule, so early booking ensures availability. However, it's always worth checking for last-minute openings or cancellations if you need immediate services.

1. Can I trust the hygiene and sanitation standards of a home salon?

Reputable home salons prioritize hygiene and sanitation. They follow strict protocols for sterilizing equipment, using disposable tools where necessary, and maintaining cleanliness. Before booking an appointment, feel free to ask about their hygiene practices to ensure your safety and well-being.

1. What if I need to cancel or reschedule my home salon appointment?

Most home salons have cancellation and rescheduling policies similar to traditional salons. Make sure to check the salon's terms and conditions regarding cancellations, rescheduling, and any associated fees. It's courteous to provide ample notice if you need to make changes to your appointment.

1. Are home salon services suitable for special occasions or events?

Absolutely! Home salon services can add a touch of luxury and convenience to special occasions and events. Whether it's preparing for a wedding, hosting a spa day with friends, or simply indulging in self-care, home salons can cater to your specific needs and create a memorable experience.